Success from setbacks
By Mike Ashworth | December 13, 2009
Sometime ago I attended a seminar run by Ian McDermott from ITS NLP which I found insightful.
These are some of the notes I made, which you may find useful.
Consider this, a setback has occurred, how are you feeling?
Draw a line on a bit of paper, or imagine one.
Now, from left to right (from less worried to more worried) place a mark on the line about how you are feeling about the setback.
Done it?
Now write the following words:
“disappointment” to the left hand side of the line
“death” to the right hand side of the line
Now look at where you made the original mark.
Did it feel like a really bad setback and you placed the mark to far right hand side?
Now that you have written the word death there I would imagine that the setback doesn’t feel as bad as death itself, as that’s pretty bad.
This is all about your state and how you frame something in your head. You will have less of a feeling of being overwhelmed if you practice this when you next encounter a setback.
“made any good mistakes lately?”
mistakes = innovation (not too many of them though)
You should think not of failure, but feedback.
Step back from that feeling of being overwhelmed. A narrowing of vision can occur which results in losing a sense of perspective.
Say to yourself “overall I get more things right than wrong - I have skills”.
Recognise your own track record. “I know quite a lot about succeeding”.
If you don’t mess things up once in a while then you have less resources available to handle future setbacks.
This would mean that a future setback would be disproportionate to your success/failure ratio.
This would have a big impact.
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